Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Focus on yourself

It's all just too much.  I feel so overwhelmed right now.  I suppose as we grow older, a shift happens for some and you realize that you already knew life was short, but it takes on a warp speed, faster than light-like quality that just blows your mind.  Looking around I've realized that people are fading away out of my life or they already have.  Clearly, some have meant so much to me and I don't want that "fading" to happen.  But inevitably, the harder I have tried to re-cultivate those relationships, it seems that the effort is most of the time, one sided.  

Had a wake up mental "slap" from my confidant today.  So what if people don't reciprocate the cultivation?  Don't take it personally.  "Focus on yourself".   I must find peace with myself... work on myself.... be real and happy with myself.  Looking to others won't fix that.  Only once I am comfortable and good with who I am, will I really enjoy the friendship and company of others.

When the pain of holding on is worse than the pain of letting go, it is time to let go. Let go of needing everyone to like you. – Everyone doesn’t need to like you. But remember, just because some people don’t seem to care for you, doesn’t mean you should forget about everyone else who does.